Sir Alex's BDSM Advice

"What would you say to a sub who has to be a alpha in the work place and after a long hard day at work has a hard time letting the walls back down to be the sub to his master?"  That’s a really great question. I have a few thoughts, but if you can… I’d like to ask you why is it hard to let the walls down when you get home? Is this something you’ve always had an issue with? Is it hardest during the work week? Are there any times when entering subspace is easy for you? I still have some general thoughts but if I could have an answer to those questions I could probably be a bit more specific 1.       Relax - When you come home, designate some time to decompress from your day (however you do that). A Master is a being of many endless wants. If he cares about you he needs to give you some space when you get home for however long you need. The most important thing to remember about subs and doms alike is that we’re all people and we need time to be people for a bit. That lea

"Excuse me Sir, I'm sorry for bothering you but do you have any advice on first-timer submissive who just made a contact (i followed your advice on how to find a Sir using Recon) with a dom from another country and said he is willing to host? Many insecurities comes to mind- is this real, is this dangerous, what should i do and so on, or is all of this irrelevant and i should just go for it? Not to mention having no previous experiences. How should i proceed? Would appreciate your advice, Sir."   No bother at all boy, I love answering questions. I saw you’re wondering whether this Dom is for real. Let’s treat this dominant like he is for real just to play out how that could work out. 1.        You’re away from home   - If you get to the other country you’re probably dependent on this guy to get a flight back. That gives him a lot of leverage over your departure and no matter how much you talk to him, how trust worthy he seems, it’s always going to be a potential po

"Dear Sir, I have come up finally with a situation regarding a contract for ownership. Do you have any templates as I've never used a physical "written up" contract before. I've just collared my boy(s) and that's been enough but I was intrigues by the request so I thought I would ask someone more knowledgeable. Any guidelines would be appreciated. Thank you in advance." Hello fellow Master, Yes. I have one with @bredbeta​. I won’t share that contract word for word but I will copy some ideas for stuff to go into it. Here are some ideas we built into it: Defining terms - We wanted to make sure that terms like cheating were defined. We wanted to discuss what was and wasn’t acceptable. What’s acceptable - We wanted to make sure we discussed what is and isn’t acceptable with punishments, interactions with people outside the relationship, and so forth. What does it look like to have outside sex - Since an open relationship is part of our model we had

"Hi! Maybe you could help me understand something. I'm a dominant who crave to dominate others doms. It's a big turn on for me. I have no or little interest to play with an obedient submissive. I want to "fight" and subdue a strong dominant man. Is this common? It's more difficult for me to find someone to play with..."  Have I got some good news for you! You can totally find guys like that will challenge you. First off, let me post this link: https://bdsmtest.org/ This link is relevant because when you take the test I bet at the end you’re going to score highly for a “Brat Tamer”. It is not an identity that seems to be used outside of the test, but here’s what I understand a Brat Tamer to do. One of the sexiest things for a Brat Tamer to do is to dominate someone who makes it a challenge. That sounds exactly like you. You can actually find a number of submissive men for whom the sexiest part of play is to struggle against domination only to buckl

"Hello, sir. I'm a boy from Phoenix, AZ new to the beta life, and I have a question regarding body hair on a fag. Is it permissible for a fag to have a fair amount of body hair? Even on their privates and ass? Thank you, Sir, for your time."  I get this question a lot. The answer of whether it’s permissible or not comes down to two things. First, how do YOU feel about the body hair? Do you like it? Is it troublesome to keep it trim? If you feel that it’s best for you to keep the body hair because it can get ingrown in the skin, you just think it’s sexy, or for any reason you feel strongly about… KEEP IT! If it matters enough to you that you have a preference about it, i’d suggest not serving a dominant who says that you have to shave/wax the hair to serve him long term. You may feel differently, but i do think it’s reasonable to ask a boy to keep the hair trim at some length. Second, how does the Sir you want to serve feel about the body hair? Whenever you’re sen