Sir Alex's BDSM Advice

Hi there, I'm a (about to be) 21-year-old sub who's into boot and glove worship (although it's a bit more complicated than that). I'm a guy who likes women, am grey-Asexual (I'd have sex for kids), but I have a fetish involving guys' boots/shoes. (The same footwear on a woman doesn't hit me as 'hot' the way it does when a man is wearing it). I've never had a relationship and I'm afraid guys won't want to take me as a sub because I'm not into sex and I'm heteroromantic. Any tips? You’re right. It is going to be more difficult finding partners. I’m sure you already know this because you seem like a very aware person but the more specific you are the harder it will be to find someone.  I think the fact that you’re not interested in sex is going to be more of a hang up than your heteroromance. I think that ultimately you will find a partner you can enjoy serving. You...

How do you approach a dom without scaring him off? I want to let him know that he can do literally anything to me without over doing it. I’m going to start by assuming that you’re absolutely capable of anything a dominant can dish out to give my initial advice. That second sentence you wrote needs to be carefully rephrased. Assuming the following is true, I'd be far more comfortable hearing: “Sir, hello. I am a submissive who finds you and what you do very attractive. I’d like to let you know I am a very experienced submissive. I have been practicing BDSM for X years and have had dominant after dominant pushing my limits and I think you will find they are more developed than submissives who may have approached you so far. If you’re inclined to hear more I’d be happy to tell you about my experiences and discuss yours as well.” The above is...

Hello Sir, have you ever wounded a boy accidentally? I apologized and he said it was nothing but I feel so, so bad. Hi there! I think I'm talking to a fellow Sir but I’m a little uncertain… I’m so sorry to hear that! I know exactly how guilty you must feel. I have messed up. I haven’t actually wounded someone yet. Hope I never do. The very first post I wrote for The Gay Boy Bible was the first big mistake I made to show why this sort of education was important. You can read the full story here . In short, I did not know that a boy who had a ball gag in his mouth needed to drool and not swallow. When I struck his ass he was surprised and inhaled sharply. The spittle went into his lungs and his body panicked as if he were drowning. He was, however, bound at the time and thrashing about clearly freaking out. I had to push in despite being kicked a...

Hello sir. I'm a senior in college who is a sub/switch and I've finally met another person in tumblr who lives nearby, is a year older than me, and is into the same stuff I am(boot worship/trampling) (he also says he's 90% sub, 10% dom). We've talked for a bit and we both have expressed that meeting for a session would be awesome. I'd messaged him a few days ago and he never responded. I'm afraid that he's ignoring me/passively cancelling our idea but I don't want to sound pushy. Any advice? Thanks for the question! I’m in this very situation almost monthly. I think that the first bit of context we should add in here is that when it comes to messages through messenger there is no notification outside of Tumblr (unlike this very ask you sent me which generated an email). Whatever you write, you should just keep in mind without a notification if anything serious came up in real life...