My kinks don't match my sexuality

Hi there, I'm a (about to be) 21-year-old sub who's into boot and glove worship (although it's a bit more complicated than that). I'm a guy who likes women, am grey-Asexual (I'd have sex for kids), but I have a fetish involving guys' boots/shoes. (The same footwear on a woman doesn't hit me as 'hot' the way it does when a man is wearing it). I've never had a relationship and I'm afraid guys won't want to take me as a sub because I'm not into sex and I'm heteroromantic. Any tips?

You’re right. It is going to be more difficult finding partners. I’m sure you already know this because you seem like a very aware person but the more specific you are the harder it will be to find someone.  I think the fact that you’re not interested in sex is going to be more of a hang up than your heteroromance. I think that ultimately you will find a partner you can enjoy serving. You have such a clear idea in terms of who you are, what you want, and what you have to offer that I think that certainty and confidence will attract someone.

I’m not asexual myself so I don’t know if this would in fact be an option for you… but might you be interested in boot/glove worship for an older man? What about someone who is overweight? I don’t have a sense of just what your needs are for the person you serve. If it’s the case that they have a compatible personality and they behave themselves you can serve them then I think that is going to help out a lot in your search.

I’d also suggest popping onto Fetlife and seeing if there are any gay munches in the area you could get to. Make some friends at those munches. A Munch for anyone unaware is a brunch for kinksters. As far as I know all of them have a rule that no play takes place there, it’s just a social event so you can meet people and get to know them. If you decide to play with them after the munch, great! If not you made a new friend. Go and see if you can meet some folks. They might introduce you to friends you could service.

I also just popped onto Fetlife for you and searched for Asexuals. https://fetlife.com/groups/7247 I found there were a number of groups but here’s a link to the first one I found as an example.

I hope that any of this is has been helpful to you!

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