Sir Alex's BDSM Advice

Excuse me Sir, I'm sorry for bothering you but do you have any advice on first-timer submissive who just made a contact (i followed your advice on how to find a Sir using Recon) with a dom from another country and said he is willing to host? Many insecurities comes to mind- is this real, is this dangerous, what should i do and so on, or is all of this irrelevant and i should just go for it? Not to mention having no previous experiences. How should i proceed? Would appreciate your advice, Sir. No bother at all boy, I love answering questions. I saw you’re wondering whether this Dom is for real. Let’s treat this dominant like he is for real just to play out how that could work out. 1.       You’re away from home   - If you get to the other country you’re probably dependent on this guy to get a flight back. That gives him a lot o...

Hi Sir, I hope you are well. Everyone seems to have their own rigid ideas about what a Master or slave is, or how they should behave. I'm in a long-term relationship where we have differing ideas about it. I prefer to strive for complete submission, whereas Sir wants his slave to challenge him occasionally. I guess I may have picked up some of these ideals from people on Tumblr (*cough cough* Bredbeta*). What are your thoughts on the situation? Thanks in advance for your insight . Thank you Anon, I am indeed well. Great question. I agree, I think that many people (probably most) are pretty rigid in their ideas about what makes doms and subs… Well doms and subs. I feel that’s also true for bears, twinks, jocks, etc. I think this rigidity is due to inherent social instincts humans have. By narrowing down what makes your group joinable, you actually make yourself more elite in the process! “Not everyone can be l...

Dear Sir, I have come up finally with a situation regarding a contract for ownership. Do you have any templates as I've never used a physical "written up" contract before. I've just collared my boy(s) and that's been enough but I was intrigues by the request so I thought I would ask someone more knowledgeable. Any guidelines would be appreciated. Thank you in advance. Hello fellow Master, Yes. I have one with my boyfriend/submissive​. I won’t share that contract word for word but I will copy some ideas for stuff to go into it. Here are some ideas we built into it: Defining terms - We wanted to make sure that terms like cheating were defined. We wanted to discuss what was and wasn’t acceptable. What’s acceptable - We wanted to make sure we discussed what is and isn’t acceptable with punishments, interactions with people outside the relations...

As a total bottom I'll occasionally go into heats where no matter how many times I masturbate I won't feel satisfied or be able to relax until I stuff my ass with whatever is on hand(toys, boyfriend, particularly lonely vegetables) have you heard of this before? Do you know any other bottoms who have this happen? That’s an interesting question because i think I’ve experienced the other side of that same experience. I have heard of bottoms being in heat. But my recollection is primarily hearing that in captions or as a part of porn. I don’t think that I know of any bottoms I’ve fucked or know in real life who have admitted this to me. I’m not a bottom (I am a vers top if that matters to you or another reader), but i have instances where i get really horny and I’ll masturbate a few times a day. The masturbation and act of orgasm helps relieve the nee...