Sir Alex's BDSM Advice

How do romantic relationships work between a sub and a dom? Oh man is that ever a complicated answer.  The short version of it is: “It varies from couple to couple like any other romantic relationship!”  But before I get to a more detailed answer let me suggest a book worth reading if you REALLY want to see how different BDSM romantic relationships can be. “Ask the Man Who Owns Him” By david stein with David Schachter. Great book. It interviews real couples throughout the United States and goes very in depth into how their relationships work. I’ve learned a LOT from it. The more detailed answer is that there are a lot of different aspects to consider. Since BDSM takes a fair bit of talking to make sure everyone is safe and negotiating for what they want, relationships sometimes get talked through more than a standard straight relation...

Hello sir. I am currently in a relationship with a wonderful woman and I am the dominant one in it. But I always have the urge to submit to an alpha and let him use me however he sees fit. She knows that I am bisexual but I feel that it would ruin the dynamic of our relationship when it comes to dom/sub. Please give me some advice, I don’t know if I can control my urges for cock much longer. Hey there anon! Thanks for the question. I have a number of thoughts on this. First off, let’s start with something I think is really important: “She knows that I am bisexual but I feel that it would ruin the dynamic of our relationship…“ I’m going to take this to mean that she knows your bisexual, would be ok with you playing with a man as well. But just to keep all the related ideas together, let’s for a second assume that’s not true. I think the first step then should be to talk to her, propose what you’d like to ...

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Hello! First, I want to thank you for running this blog, I've learnt a lot about BDSM which is great because I used to have a very warped view of it. I'd like to ask for some advice though.. I'm only 20 and sex is still new for me and while I like fantasizing about being dominated, I think IRL I'd at most want some playful kinky sex every now and then but leave it at that. Do you think I have a place in the BDSM/kink community / are there similar people like me here who want it more "casual"? Hi there Anon! I’m glad I could disabuse you of untrue notions! You’re too kind to my blogs! And thank you for the question! If you’re only 20 and sex is still new there’s probably a lot about yourself you don’t know about yet. I don’t want this to be an older person talking down to a younger person but I was talking to a friend recently about how I’m different now at 34 than when I was 20. I thin...