What's the community in DC like?!

Hello Sir, I’ve been following you for a long time- always love the content! I was just wondering how the BDSM community is in dc? Do you know many doms or subs or couples? Is it a connected community? I live in Baltimore.

Hello boy! I’m sorry that you’ve not yet connected to the community in Baltimore.
As for DC? I honestly don’t know too much about the community. My exposure is limited to going to the DC Eagle (there’s one in Baltimore too, have you been?), a house party for an owned puppy, MAL (Mid Atlantic Leather), and a few times at Code DC. I am aware of my community and friendly, but i’m happy with where i’m at and an introvert.
From those points of observation i’d be able to say the community is a bit small, but because people come to DC for work and then leave to go home DC is a bit more connected to the rest of the world. The DC community is also a bit tight lipped. A lot of kinksters want to keep their kink lives and their professional lives as far apart as humanly possible. I had heard from other kinksters that cities either have a community or a scene but very rarely both. So in this case i think DC has more of the community aspects of BDSM because they have leather brotherhoods and organizations but the eagle is pretty far out of the city now and there are two dungeons that i don’t think see a lot of patrons.
I would recommend signing onto fetlife and looking for munches in Baltimore, even if they’re straight munches because even straight folks have gay/bi friends who might also be into kink. I did try to go to a munch here in DC but the people who hosted it hosted it at a public venue and were 1.5 hours late to their own event. I was already 90% home having given up on that nonsense by the time they posted “we’re here! where is everyone?” For anyone who has never heard of a munch, they’re brunches that are often hosted in someone’s home where kinksters get together to be sociable. Play is forbidden at munches so no need to worry about having to go prepared to play. It also gives you a chance to get to know anyone that you might potentially play with. I also have to say… don’t just go for the sex. Look to make a few kinky friends you can be yourself around. :)
I hope this is helpful!
Do you have questions about how to meet other kinksters? Live in a large city but don’t know how to find the right current? Send me a question or ask for advice on anything BDSM!

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