How do I know what submissive title describes me?

Hi. I'm still very new to your blog. I just read your post "Faggot, Omega, Boy" and I'm trying to see where I fit in this. Because some times ago, I realized that what I truly crave is to be humiliated, to feel violated, may be below others like the omega. I like to please my superior, but, more than that, I wanna please him in the most degrading way because it turn me on and because it turn him on too. I want him to use my body, control me and push me further into my submission and degradation.

I wrote that article to get dominants to realize that not all boys are the same cookie cutter shape. That boys are different and need to be treated differently depending on their motivations for submission.

Treating boys the same was one of the biggest mistakes I made as a dominant early on.

But to directly answer your question, that particular motivation most falls under faggot as being disrespected is part of your motivation. That disqualifies you from boy and omegas have a powerful need to be under others in a social structure.

Two things to keep in mind:

1) Use whatever title you want - If you really dislike faggot, then don’t feel obligated to use it. I’m well aware that there are a number of men and boys who will never read my blog through use of the word faggot. My boy is actually one such boy. You’ve accomplished the most important goal of the article. Being able to tell a dominant what motivates you. You’d be surprised how hard it is to get boys to do this.

2) The titles in that article are not cut and dry - There are plenty of boys out there who have reposted that article without reading the foreword and been confused that they were a combination faggot/omega or that they’re usually a boy, but sometimes a faggot. I know this is the case and self expression isn’t as simple as putting oneself into a single box. Be in touch with how you’re feeling. Being able to tell your Sir, “I’m feeling pretty faggoty today” would be an absolute blessing. Dominants can’t read your mind, so having some ready terms to use to tell us how you feel is an excellent way to submit.

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