Sir Alex's BDSM Advice

Sir, may i please ask what drives a Dominant in general terms? What makes Him tick? Is it the control? The helplessness of His sub? Inflicting pain? Humiliation? Does submissiveness/obedience turn Him on? Is it fun to train, or a chore? Thank You Sir Unfortunately, I can’t answer this question. Every dominant is different. I would rather doubt that there is a truly universal set of principles that makes every dominant tick. We’re humans not androids ;) Any answer I give is related to me and my personal experience and we should all understand while reading it that my experience cannot be extrapolated to apply universally to all dominants. I am highly motivated by control. In fact I’m always seeking to accrue more of it from everyone that serves me. Especially when boys tell me no. I want to make them say yes later of their own free will and turn over any controls they initially denied me. Inflicting pain and humiliatio...

Am I a selfish faggot Sir? I serve a very big, heavy, hairy, powerful alpha. He has a 9 x 6.5 cock, he's 6'2, 240lbs, very hairy and he stinks of sweat when we meet. He loves to be dominant. I'm required to lick clean his feet, pits, balls and arse when we meet. I suck and choke on his big dick. My useless cock is ignored totally. Just wish he's smash my cunt much more. Been too inferior to ask. Other alphas always fuck me - they love it. He's amazing. Am I being a spoiled fag? What should I do? Are you a selfish faggot? Maybe? It’s kinda hard to say based on what you wrote. It doesn’t sound like it. A spoiled fag would insist on being fucked. Then pout when he doesn’t get his way and act out by way of protest. You could try asking and see what he says. You’d be surprised how flexible alphas can be. Some things to consider : He may just like oral. Plenty of men prefer it to anal. That dominant ...

Sir, can a boy or slave expect care and affection from his Dom? What if there is a death in the family, or a sibling needs help, or a sub becomes ill? Will the Dom be more of a partner when things go wrong in life? Thank You, Sir. You would have to ask an individual dominant this question. All of this is specific to individuals.  There is not much that can accurately be said of dominants as a group. I think you SHOULD be able to expect this. A dominant cares for his boy and is supposed to protect him and keep him safe in and out of the dungeon. I think that some guys fall into a trap of thinking where they’re concerned subs won’t respect and adore them if they drop the dominance for a single moment (even if they need to). Also, there’s a buddy I have who is a submissive. He really likes to be abused (hit, insulted, and degraded) and he has a kinky husband. However, his husband really loves and cares for this b...

Why do people cheat. I'm asking you as much as I'm asking myself. I keep putting myself in bad situations and have cheated multiple times. Both consenting/notso-consenting for me. I can't seem to stop. I fucking hate myself so much, so fucking much... Ouch, you sound like you’re in a lot of pain. As far as I know there are two reasons people seem to cheat. The first one is often subconscious.  You have something wrong with the relationship and you don’t want to be in it anymore, but don’t know how to get out of it without hurting someone. So instead, you slam down on the relationship destruct button and become the bad guy assuring the relationship will end. If the above resonates for you then I have some thoughts. First off, when a relationship ends, it is not possible to not hurt the other person. The very nature of a relationship is to make ourselves vulnerable to another person so we can love them....

I've sucked cock, but I can't come to terms w being gay or doing anal. Like after I cum I'm not attracted to guys anymore. But when I'm horny I only want guys. I've sucked 4 dicks and never anal. Like what is wrong w me? Am I gay or what? If I am gay then why do I want nothing to do w men when I'm not horny. Also sometimes when I am horny I'll watch lesbian porn but only domination lesbian porn w strapons and stuff. I just want to figure out what is going on if you can help me! First off, i want to assure you that confusion around exactly who you are sexually is not uncommon at all. As more and more men become aware that “man/woman” is not the exclusive extent of sexuality, lots of guys who are in fact straight end up questioning who they are. I think that the most prudent thing to do would be to give you some things to think about. Ultimately, you have to discover who you are for...