I am attracted to sucking dick, right up till I cum...

I've sucked cock, but I can't come to terms w being gay or doing anal. Like after I cum I'm not attracted to guys anymore. But when I'm horny I only want guys. I've sucked 4 dicks and never anal. Like what is wrong w me? Am I gay or what? If I am gay then why do I want nothing to do w men when I'm not horny. Also sometimes when I am horny I'll watch lesbian porn but only domination lesbian porn w strapons and stuff. I just want to figure out what is going on if you can help me!

First off, i want to assure you that confusion around exactly who you are sexually is not uncommon at all. As more and more men become aware that “man/woman” is not the exclusive extent of sexuality, lots of guys who are in fact straight end up questioning who they are.

I think that the most prudent thing to do would be to give you some things to think about. Ultimately, you have to discover who you are for yourself I cannot tell you because only you can uncover your true self.

So there are some different possibilities and you should think about which ones appeal to you and how strongly they appeal to you.

We spoke privately prior to me writing this post and you discussed with me that you have played with women before mostly oral or handjobs, you didn’t penetrate anyone. You said that when you were horny you were 100% interested in guys. It’s possible that you may just have an interest in dick. You may want to think about or watch some pegging porn. Pegging porn does often involve penetration which doesn’t sound appealing to you according to the above.

You might also find you have an interest in a transwoman with a dick who would be open to oral but not penetration. If you haven’t examined that porn, i would suggest looking about for some and comparing your attraction to that of your attraction to men.

Ultimately though… I’m concerned you may have a reason that you’re disconnecting from men after
sex. Keep in mind not all gay men top or bottom. There are a good number of them just into oral, and some just into handjobs. So you can be gay without penetrating or being penetrated. I think you have some issues that you really need to get in touch with about why you want to distance yourself from men. Are you afraid of what people would think? Are you afraid of your family? I am worried that you may not want to be gay for a social reason and that is why you’re having such an immediate counter reaction after you’ve cum.

I hope any of these leads you to an answer that’s useful to you. Follow up with me and let me know how it goes!

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