Sir Alex's BDSM Advice

I'm a boy coming to terms with myself. Was wondering what are your thoughts on boys? Why are we the way we are? When I think back on my earliest sexual thoughts they all involved submission. I tried to deny them for a long time and it's difficult to admit it still. Why do I feel this desire to take cock, to be held by big, strong Men, be told I'm a good boy? What a philosophical question. I love it. So you’re having trouble coming to terms with being a submissive. Hmm, well there’s two components that might be giving you trouble. Component one is Society. “Everyone should be a leader, we should all be strong people who bow to no one!” That’s bullshit. It takes a lot of guts and personal strength to serve a man. After all you have to put your trust in someone else and let go. There are people who live their entire lives wanting to let go but ...

Hello Sir, I'm in a dilemma with my Dom right now. He wants to put me in chastity, but I'm not big enough (about 2-3" hard) with no hanging balls. I feel like I disappoint him because I can't please Him and I feel like a failure. He tell me not to worry about it but I can't shake the feeling of disappointment. What could I do to stop feeling like this and please Him. Thank you for answering Sir. There are most definitely little chastity cages you can get for your size. I would encourage you to reach out to chastity blogs for other guys your size and see what they have to say as far as a specific model you can search for on google. If I’m mistaken and there really isn’t such a model, then it’s time to get creative about chastity. The cage is not the end all be all. There are many men who have no cage yet never touch themselves outsid...

SIR, Your words and thoughts are so much appreciated by boys like me. There is a question that I cannot seem to answer and wanted to see if you would be willing to enlighten me. I respond to the idea of a faggot, a pussyboi, beta and sub. I'd even say in some scenarios a slave. Is there a way to clarify my role or is a blend common? It is clear that serving Real Men, Masters and Alphas is my purpose but is there a clearer purpose for me? Thanks much. bornfaggot You’re too kind bornfaggot. And this is a great question. It is absolutely common to have a blend. Kink, sexuality, personality, and general levels of happiness all exist on a spectrum. So as kinksters it’s really common to be a blend of sexual interests. http://thegayboybible.tumblr.com/post/139354493831/faggot-omega-boy I wrote an entry on three motivations of submissives. I think you should read this post not for the identities but to wrap...

I am a newbie, I find your writing very expanding and helpful. What advise can you offer a very scared to fail person? I think that being very scared to fail is unhealthy for personal growth. I wrote something on this already at:  http://thegayboybible.tumblr.com/post/138440062196/cultivating-bravery But I’m going to try to focus on giving advice I haven’t given already. 1) Failure Is How We Learn And Grow - You learn so much more from failure than you do success. In BDSM that’s a really important thing. Learning that I’ve tied a rope too tight helps every sub after that moment. Failing to tie a knot teaches me what to change in future to get it down pat. A perpetual expectation perfection is a recipe for frustration. 2) Failures Of The Past Won’t Be Seen By Those In The Present - If you fail at an activity. Learn from it. Try again, and get it right going fo...