I feel like I am a blend of many different types of subs, is this normal?

SIR, Your words and thoughts are so much appreciated by boys like me. There is a question that I cannot seem to answer and wanted to see if you would be willing to enlighten me. I respond to the idea of a faggot, a pussyboi, beta and sub. I'd even say in some scenarios a slave. Is there a way to clarify my role or is a blend common? It is clear that serving Real Men, Masters and Alphas is my purpose but is there a clearer purpose for me? Thanks much. bornfaggot

You’re too kind bornfaggot. And this is a great question.

It is absolutely common to have a blend. Kink, sexuality, personality, and general levels of happiness
all exist on a spectrum. So as kinksters it’s really common to be a blend of sexual interests.

http://thegayboybible.tumblr.com/post/139354493831/faggot-omega-boy
I wrote an entry on three motivations of submissives. I think you should read this post not for the identities but to wrap your mind around the motivations. Understanding your own motivations is a REALLY helpful way to tell a dominant about yourself. If your sexuality is largely based on humiliation. Then there a dominant would see that and self select for or against that based on his own interests.

The other option is to select an identity you closest fit and just adopt that as a default and just be flexible while serving a dominant. If he’s just that right kinda guy that could get you to behave like a slave? Offer to. If you’re feeling like a full on pussyboi. Rub that pussy and let him know how you’re feeling. Speak your mind on any given day so he knows who he’s dealing with today. He can’t read minds, so be sure to be as direct as you can.

I would also point out, that while “Real men, masters, and alphas” means something to you. It means absolutely nothing to me or anyone who doesn’t already know your kink self well. It is a lot better to be more concrete about what you think constitutes a man you’d want to serve. Does a “real man” change tires? Smoke cigars? Wear flannel? Play or watch sports? Being able to describe a dominant you most want to serve is the flip side of your desire to refine down what you’re looking for.

As for a clearer purpose? I think if there is one, that answer is going to come from you for you. And it’s probably just going to take time faggot. Kink is a lot like just like getting out of highschool and not knowing what you want to do. Some guys are never QUITE sure what they want to do, but many settle down and get a sense through time and experience of where they want to go. Give it time, have LOTS of experiences. It’s as important to know what you hate as it is to know what you love.
Best of luck faggot. Hit us up again later and give us an update how this worked out for you.

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