I'm feeling like I've disappointed my dom and it's crushing. Help!

Hello Sir, I'm in a dilemma with my Dom right now. He wants to put me in chastity, but I'm not big enough (about 2-3" hard) with no hanging balls. I feel like I disappoint him because I can't please Him and I feel like a failure. He tell me not to worry about it but I can't shake the feeling of disappointment. What could I do to stop feeling like this and please Him. Thank you for answering Sir.

There are most definitely little chastity cages you can get for your size. I would encourage you to reach out to chastity blogs for other guys your size and see what they have to say as far as a specific model you can search for on google.

If I’m mistaken and there really isn’t such a model, then it’s time to get creative about chastity. The cage is not the end all be all. There are many men who have no cage yet never touch themselves outside of needing to use the bathrooms. You could also have a string tied around it to remind you of your commitment to him.

Above and beyond the issue around the cage. I’ve experienced subs having issues with feeling like they can’t please their dominant. In this case, you need to hear what he’s saying. I don’t know you’re dominant, but i do know that many dominants say exactly what they’re saying or feeling (often to our detriment).

When it comes to kink, try to remember that my blog and most of the rest of these is fantasy. There’s some overlap with reality, but not enough that you should be looking at these blogs as a guide to kink. There are so many different and fun ways to do chastity that you need to focus on the goal rather than the metal.

Present your dominant with ways to keep your little cocklet all safe and sound that he approves of. Work the problem. If you haven’t already? Let your dominant know you’re putting pressure on yourself over this problem. I’m hopeful he’ll reassure you as i have. Make him proud boy.

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