Sir Alex's BDSM Advice

Your blog makes me want to assert my natural superiority to a young, white male in the L.A. Area. I'm 34yo, white/Latin, professional, athletic. Your posts lit a fire in me and I want to learn from a mentor the way you did. Who's the best? Any trained fags in the area whom you know? Best is really a matter of opinion. I am always partial first towards my mentor. Eric Pride. For anyone else who hadn’t seen the mentor references he was referring to… I spent 8 months speaking with my mentor over skype. We did an hour every other week. I paid him for his time and I came up with my own curriculum and directed my own education. I am certain Eric would not mind taking on a new student. Do a quick google search and you can find him easily. He is my preferred suggestion. If cash is tight, you could always try going the route our BDSM forefathers went and participate in the “old guard”. The Old Guard references a particular structure of BDSM wherein you can only parti...

I'm having trouble with my cock cage. Even though it seems as tight as it could possibly be, every now and then one ball kinda retracts up into my scrotum and pops through the ring which then causes it to fall off. Any suggestions about how I can avoid this? Well, testicles retract inside us when they are cold. Given that it’s winter here in the northern hemisphere that cold air could certainly explain why one of your testicles does an escape act! I think I have a solution, but it’s not going to be super comfortable. If you can, grab a ball stretcher and see if you can put it on when you’re going to go out into the cold. Ball stretchers are better able to grip your balls and will pull them down and separate. I suggest something rubbery and I’ll include a link to a product that may help. I’d only wear these for the duration of time that you’re going to be in a cold area and then take them off once you’ve been in a wa...

Hi. I have a question for you, which is possibly an open ended writing trigger. How do you suggest someone let go in terms of being submissive? I have submissive fantasies and desires, but I don't act on them because I don't know how to let go or give myself to someone else in that way. I can never clear my mind and be sexually free during intimate situations. It tends to be anxiety more than anything else, no matter who the partner is or how comfortable I am with them. Thank you! Thanks for the question. Before i say anything else, you must know… I can’t tell you how to submit mentally. That is the part you have to make happen for yourself. That said. I asked my boy  if he had any input i might have missed as a dominant. Here are his thoughts: - Remember how much you desire Domination. - Hold in your mind the reasons your chosen Man is worthy of y...