Is there something wrong with me for wanting to be inferior?

I am and always have been a total bottom with a small dick who gets intensely turned on by thinking of myself as inferior to certain other men, and naturally submissive in their presence. In fact it's pretty much the only way I get aroused. But another part of me continues to feel like there's something wrong with me for having those feelings. What's your perspective on that?

I think the important first step would be to wrestle with why exactly you feel it’s wrong to have those feelings? Ever heard the folk advice when it comes to dating: “Don’t fuck on the first date?” Even if you personally stick to that advice, I’m sure you know others who don’t and have very successful romantic lives. Folk advice

You know what’s also a bit of folk advice? “Everyone is equal.” To be absolutely precise regarding what I mean is: not everyone WANTS to be equal. That’s perfectly OK too. Why? Because it’s directly related to your personal happiness and well being. You DESERVE to be happy.
I don’t know you AT all, but when I read your question… all I can think is that you feel like your personal desire for inferiority is at odds with a broader cultural perspective on equality. If that’s true, you’re right it is. There’s two ways you can go with that.

1) You can either stick with the friends you already have and keep your private life private. Absolutely nothing wrong with that. If that’s the easiest way for you to move through life, do it. You and your superior alpha know and LIVE the truth.

2) Make some new friends. Surround yourself with people who believe as you do. Who encourage and support your need to feel and be inferior to those around you. At the end of the day if you have a great big smile on your face, you’re living the dream! But if at the end of the day, you’re beat up, exhausted, and don’t feel good about yourself? Then you might need to set some boundaries.

You can be treated as an inferior, loved, and disrespected and still feel good about yourself. I’m actually really excited for you. This sounds like potentially a really powerful moment of personal growth for you.

When you think about this, embrace how much it means to you. You said it’s pretty much the only way to arouse you. I really think that speaks volumes about you. You can come to a place where you feel good about yourself and who you are. This is a part of you and you should fully embrace it. Everyone’s different. Some more than most.

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