Popper Safety

"Hello sir, I'm a younger sub and have a couple questions about safety. Firstly, are poppers safe to use, like is overdose a possibility and how damaging are they to your brain? Secondly, how do you find good doms? I've been using omegle but are there any sites you recommend, everyone on there is a flaky dom and leaves after the session, so do you perhaps have anyone you recommend even?"

 Hi pup! One of the things I dislike about Tumblr is its transient nature. It is hard to post stuff so that people can persistently see it. I have a Table of Contents for posts I’ve written that would answer your question on how to find good Doms. Specifically, how to find a Sir and what to look for in a Sir but before I get into finding a Sir let’s address your questions in order

• Are poppers safe to use? 

If you’d asked me a few months ago I would’ve largely said yes. However, recent research indicates it might have a serious draw back. Here’s the info I know: poppers DO lower your immune response, you can get sick or be more likely to catch a cold, STDs, or HIV from the lower immune response. They also can cause some excessively dry skin if you spill it on yourself. Poppers also lower blood pressure so if you have naturally low blood pressure or are taking Viagra DO NOT TAKE POPPERS. It can cause blood pressure to drop so low that you pass out. They are not habit forming meaning you will not experience physical withdrawal symptoms if you stop using them. Since this is a gas we’re talking about, the only way to really OD on them would be to wear a gas mask and only breathe in poppers. I don’t know the extent to which they damage your brain but I’ve had noise bleeds and coughing if I’ve used them too much.

Safe depends on the risks you’re willing to take. If you are curious about poppers, I’d try them out honestly. Not everyone enjoys them but the high lasts usually 5 minutes or less so they’re easy to come down off of. They are a muscle relaxant so if you’re a bottom it will make it easier to take dick. They also cause your skin to have a slightly heightened response to sensation. If you don’t like them then at least your curiosity has been met with experience. I’d suggest that with ALL drug use that you enjoy that you try to moderate your use. Pull it off the shelf for fucking and don’t get too used to doing it for masturbation. Poppers can be kept fresh for almost a year if you keep them in the freezer. Leaving them out at room temperature can cause them to go bad in about 3 months.

• How do I find good Doms?

That’s a REALLY long topic. I’ll do two ideas here but strongly recommend you read the linked articles above for my complete thoughts on the matter.

- Know what you want in a Dom: It’s really pretty vital that you have a sense in your head of the kind of man you want to serve. I don’t mean his physical traits (I’m sure you have those in mind already). I mean what would serving him BE like? What would his interests be like? What’s his personality? How would he react to you misbehaving or messing up? It will be a massive help if you can select Doms who are going to be compatible with you more effectively.

- Let Doms know you’re available for more: You say that Doms leave after sex and I would assume you don’t see them again? Some Doms are in it just for the sex and the play. They get off and just lose interest. Others want to live the lifestyle. You probably want to live the lifestyle from what I read. 

Other Doms might assume that you aren’t looking for strings attached. Follow up with Doms. Ask if you can assist with their laundry, cook them a meal, clean something, massage their feet, or whatever you’re comfortable with.  When you’re around them be yourself and try to engage them in conversation. You want them to see you as a complete individual who puts them first. Also, flakey dominants don’t show up for sessions. Leaving after is the expected behavior for most people.

Also, I don’t know where you live but if you’re looking for dominants… you should be asking other submissives. After all, I don’t fuck dominants, I fuck submissives. I’d actively love to be friends with other dominants but i really don’t know that many. Subs on the other hand fuck dominants and can directly speak to whether or not they are good guys or not. I think you know what to do.

Lastly, I always tell boys that they should be on both Recon and Fetlife. I’m surprised you met dominants through Omegle to be honest, but i only read a summary of the service I’ve never used it myself.

I hope this helps and follow up if you have more questions or if you find yourself a Dom! I’m sure other subs would love to hear how.