Sir Alex's BDSM Advice

I'm fairly new to really getting into the scene but had some questions for a fellow alpha. 1) How do you feel about body size? By that I mean why do so many doms/alphas gravitate towards the idea that fags should be skinny and alphas big and muscular? I'm into the feeding/gainer thing and I'm not really fat, muscular or skinny and I love the idea of fattening a guy up. 2) How have you meet fags? I am having a hard time finding truly submissive fags. Id love to finally find a day to use long term I did not know there were character limits on asks but there are and here’s the remainder: “And lastly how have you been able to grow your Tumblr and get so many fags to give you money? I’m don’t necessarily have this blog to get money by any means but it would be nice to be able to branch out and connect with more people and get more fags following me. “ Hi Anon! Thanks for making this into an ask. It’s so much...

I'm 32 and desperately want to serve. i have no idea how to find someone because i'm painfully shy, and i live in a smallish town in Buckinghamshire  Hello anon, Thanks for the question! By the way, I attempted to google where you live, but the result that was returned was that Buckinghamshire is a county to the northwest (and adjacent to) London. Is that correct? What is the average travel time to get to London for you? I’m pretty sure you have a rough idea but it’ll be important to know later on. There are two issues you’ve presented me with and as I see it, one must be resolved before the other can be addressed. The most important issue is shyness. I struggle with shyness as well. My solution has generally been to have an online presence. I find face to face rejection to sting a bit, but online it’s easier for me. You can try talking to at least one new person at a party or event. You can also try reading up on current events so you can have something yo...

Sir, would you have any advice for new pusseyboys? Ive always been a bottom, but I want to learn to ignore my dick during sex and focus on my pussey for my sexual pleasure. Im not really a sub as I do care about being pleasured as well, but most tops now seem to only want to be sucked and then bend me over. Finding a good top who loves to eat, and play with boy hole is tough and this is hard for me to experiment with pussy pleasure. Any advice for a non sub pussy boy power bottom? Hello anon, I have advice, but I’m not sure how much of it you’ll find helpful. I do not believe that submissives have to forgo their own pleasure to submit. I believe that often times it’s a choice they make as a sacrifice to their dominant or because they actively want to forgo their own pleasure because they believe or feel that they should. But if a submissive is not getting pleasure from his dominant and it’s important to him he should speak up and his dominant should listen. If he doe...

Hi Sir, I'm a sub, 31 in Edinburgh. I have a long term bf who used to like dominating me but the last couple of years is less into it. Do you have any advice on how this fag can get his dominant side back? I'm desperate to serve Sir Thanks for your great blog Sir! Hi Anon! I’m sorry to hear about your situation but let’s see what we can do to get you both on track! Sometimes with kinksters they try out a kink for a while and stop. Sometimes as a dominant they find it was a lot more work than they thought it was and it just isn’t appealing any more. Sometimes they found it hot for a while but it just stops appealing to them. There are people who leave the kink community for a lot of reasons. Has he seemed depressed? Is he on medication? There could be a psychological issue at work. I think it’s important that you talk to your boyfriend (if he’s willing to have the open conversation) and see if HE isn’t the person with the problem. If he is willing to talk...

Hi sir, i wondered if you had any advice for how an 18 year old faggot could go buy a cage and dildos discretely in DC?  Ha. Do I know my home town? Of course I do! Hmmm. I think that the only place you MIGHT be able to get a cage is Bite the Fruit. There are other sex shops here in DC but I never remember seeing cages at them. 1723 Connecticut Avenue NW Second Floor Washington DC 20009 At the bare minimum they’ll have mountains of dildos. Go get a 12 inch toy with a suction cup and try not to pull any tiles off the bathroom wall! I would point out though that discretion is the reason online shopping for adult toys is so popular. Which means that adult stores primarily focus on being open approachable atmospheres where people can comfortably ask questions. That… doesn’t really help your quest for discretion. It’s also a store catering to everyone, so straight people you know could be there browsing. Now, if you’re just looking to go somewhere you probably ...