Advice for non submissive bottoms?

Sir, would you have any advice for new pusseyboys? Ive always been a bottom, but I want to learn to ignore my dick during sex and focus on my pussey for my sexual pleasure. Im not really a sub as I do care about being pleasured as well, but most tops now seem to only want to be sucked and then bend me over. Finding a good top who loves to eat, and play with boy hole is tough and this is hard for me to experiment with pussy pleasure. Any advice for a non sub pussy boy power bottom?

Hello anon,

I have advice, but I’m not sure how much of it you’ll find helpful. I do not believe that submissives have to forgo their own pleasure to submit. I believe that often times it’s a choice they make as a sacrifice to their dominant or because they actively want to forgo their own pleasure because they believe or feel that they should. But if a submissive is not getting pleasure from his dominant and it’s important to him he should speak up and his dominant should listen. If he doesn’t that sub is likely to leave.

Setting semantics about submission aside… I think your best bet may be to lock your cock up. Without access to your cock it will be a lot easier to force your body to adjust its pleasure center to be more anal. Do keep in mind that some bodies are more anally inclined than others and you might find it harder than others to retrain your body. There’s no shame in enjoying stroking your cock when bottoming at all.

I know there aren’t a ton of options out there in terms of the kind of top you’re looking for. Maybe you could try holding the pleasures they want hostage until they’ve done ONE thing for you?
“Just eat my ass for 3 minutes and I’ll blow you.” That sort of thing. If they refuse point out that they’re the only person in the bedroom getting what they want out of sex.

Sex is a negotiation. Unless you’re desperate to get fucked, I would just stop going home with guys who aren’t considerate of your pleasure. I recognize it’s not a satisfying answer, but unless you’re going to dominate these tops you can’t “make them” do what you want. You can only try to select partners who will actually do as you like.

The only last thing I can suggest, is that perhaps the places you’re meeting these men are the problem. Try a new bar (if one exists), a new app (if it has a following in your area), anything to shake things up from the usual since the usual isn’t working for you.

I hope any of this helps. And I hope that you reader, will ask me a question!

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