I have a million questions from one alpha to another!

I'm fairly new to really getting into the scene but had some questions for a fellow alpha. 1) How do you feel about body size? By that I mean why do so many doms/alphas gravitate towards the idea that fags should be skinny and alphas big and muscular? I'm into the feeding/gainer thing and I'm not really fat, muscular or skinny and I love the idea of fattening a guy up. 2) How have you meet fags? I am having a hard time finding truly submissive fags. Id love to finally find a day to use long term

I did not know there were character limits on asks but there are and here’s the remainder: “And lastly how have you been able to grow your Tumblr and get so many fags to give you money? I’m don’t necessarily have this blog to get money by any means but it would be nice to be able to branch out and connect with more people and get more fags following me. “

Hi Anon! Thanks for making this into an ask. It’s so much easier to organize my thoughts!

How do I feel about body size fixating on skinny submissives giant muscular alphas? 
Honestly, I’ve wondered at times if the model of skinny hairless twink and overly muscular butch guy might not have come from our straight contemporaries. You probably see this in porn. There’s plenty of it around but it is in no way reflective of reality. Porn is under no obligation to function to teach us about sex either.

To hammer home the truth? Dominance is about an attitude. It is about a need within us to conquer, to demand, to be served. NONE of those things requires a body type. I have a buddy in Las Vegas who is a dominant but a very skinny twink. I’ve chatted with him about his experience with boys and I am quite sure he is as much a dominant as I am.

If you’re into being a feeder/gainer, I think you’ll find yourself a sudden commodity as you get older and find the bear community. Look up “bear runs” close to you. Even if you have to travel a bit I think once you get there you’ll fit right in. I’d also recommend getting on Growlr as well since that’s for men of the size you’re aiming for.

How do I meet SUBMISSIVES?
First thing you should know is that not all submissives are faggots. You can find my post here. To learn the difference between them. Treating all submissives the same is one of the first mistakes a lot of new doms make. Faggot should only be used on boys who start off by using it on themselves by introducing themselves as such. Otherwise it will be very rude and make a bad first impression. Other titles submissives might go by: Boy, pig, slave, bitch, omega, and pup.

To answer the question. There’s not exactly a secret to it. You pop onto places you know subs will be. Recon and Fetlife. Attend leather bars such as local “Eagle”s. You go, and you keep going, and keep talking to subs.

I’m also a bit concerned about the term “truly submissive fags”. Vanilla people do not really seriously wander into the kink community. If you meet a person who identifies as a submissive they’re a submissive. I talked to you about this and found you meant that there are guys who want to jack off and have no intentions of meeting. They are still subs and doms, they just have different needs from submission than those of us who need D/s to be the heart of our lives. I WISH so hard, that it was possible for them to identify as such. I have found no effective way to filter out those submissives. I just try to take the opportunity to practice and refine my dominance on them when I meet them and let them go when they vanish. Your time is going to come, practice, practice, practice and you’ll be ready when the sub who wants to come over for 2 hours and play comes knocking!

How did you grow your blog to get so many followers and cash submissives?
Let me answer the question of how I grew the blog. Every week I snag 45 posts and put them into drafts to caption and put into my queue. I spend 3-4 hours figuring out captions and then each week 35 posts with captions get published automatically at a set time range. By having content every single day even if I personally do not even log in, people are able to swing by to jack off any time. Plus, I think I’m talented with some of my dirty talk in the captions so new readers see the captions and come to follow me to see more. It gets more attention than “he’s hot” as a caption. I’ve been doing this for about 4 years now so it’s been a long trek to get here. In comparison, bredbeta has been doing it for almost 2 years now and has more followers than I do. My boy is a machine with his blog.
Oops. It seems I’ve given a mistaken impression here. I am new at financial domination. I have precisely one cash pig. He’s a good guy, we’ve played 4 times now and he’s set up for another session next Monday. He did however make several tributes, and I thought that it would be helpful to show financial submissives my successes in hopes of drawing in more.

Let me be really clear about this. Financial submission to me is NOT about the money. It’s about the rush I get feeling a boy tribute to me. The sensation created by a submissive making a sacrifice to me as a tribute to grow my existing power makes me feel PUMPED UP and I’m starting to love it. I make sure my submissive has one hell of a time doing it too.

Thanks so much for the question! I hope any of this was helpful.

Got a question about dominance or submission? Need someone to judge your approach on doms or subs? Hit me up! Ask me anything.

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