I need help with my gag reflex!

Hello, SIR. I hope you're having an amazing day. I have a question about my gag reflex. I want to be able to have Men fuck my throat like they do my ass. And I want them to be able to shove in deep to cum or piss if they want without me ever gagging. I feel like if they have a big dick I tend to shy away since I feel like I'm not good enough of a fag for them by not being able to take it to the root. Can you please instruct me on the best method to overcome my inadequacies?

First off, there really are men whose dicks simply will not fit in your throat no matter what you do. Throats and dicks all come in different shapes and sizes and something COMPLETELY filling your throat or stretching it is bad news. That said, it is ok to take a gauge with your mouth and see if it fits rather than just eye the dick.

As for the gag reflex. I try to be compassionate of submissives when I respond. Dominants ask a lot of you and you give as best you can. Gag reflex is something that must be overcome. In my experience there are three types of approaches to unlearning gag reflex which seem to center on the type of man you are.
  1. Cock hungry: Cock hungry guys are way into oral and/or anal and actively seek out cocks of any size and get those cocks as far inside them as they can. They unlearn gag reflex through sheer tenacity and desire to service cocks deeper within them. If I were to liken it to getting in a pool, these guys jump into the deep end and swim around until they acclimate to the colder waters.
  2. Determined: I think most guys are determined about sucking cock and avoiding discomfort when it comes to gag reflex. Ultimately they work on cocks of all sizes a little bit at a time until they overcome the gag reflex. For guys like this, they’ll get into a colder pool by taking the stairs. They may hesitate to take the stair that will plunge their genitals into cold water, but they’ll steel their will and take step anyways.
  3. Timid: Lastly, there are guys who think it’s hot to take dick deep but fear the pain or the discomfort associated with doing so. They’ll start to take a dick to the point their gag reflex kicks in but get scared of the sensation and back off entirely. Using the same analogy above, they walk down the stairs into a pool until their genitals would hit the water, and then decide they didn’t want to swim anyways its too cold. They’d sit in a pool chair but might be a little jealous of people having fun in the cold water.
I am thinking you might be the timid type. I try to be compassionate towards timid submissives, but I’ve had them back out of play entirely rather than try to stretch their limits at all and that’s their prerogative. If you’re serious about learning to undo the gag reflex. There’s a two part approach I would recommend. First, get a long but not overly thick dildo and practice sliding that into your throat. Your goal should be to learn to “open” your throat so that dildo can fit down it.

Once you feel you’ve gotten adequate practice I would recommend giving someone you TRUST permission to be a bit brutal with your throat. It won’t be pleasant but it also won’t give you the chance to back out either. As necessary, you may opt for restraints to prevent yourself from trying to push him away if you do not feel you can control yourself. You may feel the temptation to vomit. Do your best to control that instinct that is what you are here to practice. A rougher throat fuck can stir up a gag reflex you thought you had under control and the time to discover that is not in the moment the first time you do it.

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