Sir Alex's BDSM Advice

Hi! Maybe you could help me understand something. I'm a dominant who crave to dominate others doms. It's a big turn on for me. I have no or little interest to play with an obedient submissive. I want to "fight" and subdue a strong dominant man. Is this common? It's more difficult for me to find someone to play with... Have I got some good news for you! You can totally find guys like that will challenge you. First off, let me post this link:  https://bdsmtest.org/ This link is relevant because when you take the test I bet at the end you’re going to score highly for a “Brat Tamer”. It is not an identity that seems to be used outside of the test, but here’s what I understand a Brat Tamer to do. One of the sexiest things for a Brat Tamer to do is to dominate someone who makes it a challenge. That sounds exactly like you. You can actually find a number of submissive men for whom the sexiest part o...

In your experience, what one act or interaction with a beta most cements in your own mind that you have established your dominance or that he has established his inferiority? Breeding is the obvious first guess I would have, but plenty of guys like to get fucked who are not or have not made themselves betas. Is there something in particular you like to do or have the beta do that takes if from "we're just fooling around" to "we're not equals and never will be"? I thought about this question for AWHILE! It was rather hard for me to pick apart my experience. I have to start this out by saying no matter what the question is... I’m the kind of person with a couple of top favorites. So in that exact spirit, and in no particular order: Tell me you’re beneath me - The instant a boy tells me he wants to be beneath someone he’s bene...

Hello, sir. I'm a boy from Phoenix, AZ new to the beta life, and I have a question regarding body hair on a fag. Is it permissible for a fag to have a fair amount of body hair? Even on their privates and ass? Thank you, Sir, for your time. I get this question a lot. The answer of whether it’s permissible or not comes down to two things. First, how do YOU feel about the body hair? Do you like it? Is it troublesome to keep it trim? If you feel that it’s best for you to keep the body hair because it can get ingrown in the skin, you just think it’s sexy, or for any reason you feel strongly about… KEEP IT! If it matters enough to you that you have a preference about it, i’d suggest not serving a dominant who says that you have to shave/wax the hair to serve him long term. You may feel differently, but i do think it’s reasonable to ask a boy to keep the hair trim at some length. Second, how does the Sir you want to serve feel about the body hair? Whenever you’re se...

Wonderful blog, I sincerely mean it. I'd like to ask a question: I've just found a new puppy (unfortunately pretty distant from me) and since it's a new thing for me, having a long distance master-puppy relationship I've got no idea (ok, maybe I've got some but not really creative ones) about how to play with him and make him serve me. Do you have any advice about what could a master do in my position? Maybe an advice about the idea in general P.S. do you have any methods in naming a puppy? Thank you very much! You’re too kind! I hate to say it, but I actually don’t exactly know what to do with him either. Long distance play is something I could never really get a handle on. So I’m not sure how much help I can be. I think that ultimately this is going to be a good experience for you. Creativity comes easiest when you have restrictions impos...

Hello Sir, Recently had a cuck contact me looking for a Sir for his hubby. Said his hubby was attracted to me & wanted the opportunity to serve me, a Sir, for his first time as a boy. Yesterday was the first engagement with the boy & he did a nice job of following instructions and opening up about his need to serve. I'm a vers Sir/boy/faggot and move from one to the other. I understand both cuck & boy perspective but, never had at the same time in a couple. Any advice navigating them both? Thx U Thanks for the question! I reached out to this follower just to clarify a bit on the question. He told me that he is looking for advice to dominate two people in a couple at once. - The most important piece of advice is, I think, give both something to do - The challenge when dominating two boys is giving both enough attention and multitasking of course. So to make dominating easier for you assign the boy...

I only used to dom, but recently have subbed a few times. The last owner I met, said he was giving me a sub test. He had me bend over and spread my cheeks, pissed on my hole and in it with a funnel, then stuck his index finger in. When he tried to pull out, my hole tightened around it. He said I knew you were a faggot sub bitch. It was hot AF, but is that real? My believe it or not says… 100% NOT A THING! But you believed him which speaks to how well he sold it in the moment. There’s nothing wrong with that at all. It is part of being a skilled dominant to sell subs on the fantasy in the moment because it’s hot. Here’s the important thing, how you proceed from here. I had a friend lately who was asking me about whether or not he’s a switch and how he should identify. He is a submissive but found someone he could dominate. I told him that in truth all of us have ...