How can I best show I've been conquered?

In your experience, what one act or interaction with a beta most cements in your own mind that you have established your dominance or that he has established his inferiority? Breeding is the obvious first guess I would have, but plenty of guys like to get fucked who are not or have not made themselves betas. Is there something in particular you like to do or have the beta do that takes if from "we're just fooling around" to "we're not equals and never will be"?
I thought about this question for AWHILE! It was rather hard for me to pick apart my experience. I have to start this out by saying no matter what the question is... I’m the kind of person with a couple of top favorites. So in that exact spirit, and in no particular order:
  • Tell me you’re beneath me - The instant a boy tells me he wants to be beneath someone he’s beneath me and i have a hard time seeing him differently. I do this because it helps me stick to that mind set.
  • When my mind tricks start working - This one is less about inferiority and more about a feeling I’m in control. I have a mind game i do where i start trying to predict what you’re doing, feeling, or experiencing. Once i start getting lots of “yes” then i know you’re falling into my rhythm instead of having a rhythm of your own. That makes it a lot easier to take power from you because you’re already in a mindset of saying yes.
  • When you beg me - That’s a moment where you intentionally put power in my hands by giving me the power to fulfill what you ask for. I can withhold from you if i want something more or something else. I can grant it in it’s entirety or even just in part. Begging really sets my dominant side aflame. “Oh, you’re dying to cum boy? Here let me help you with that… *stops after 2 minutes* Not yet boy. I’ll tell you when.”

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